"Those who do not suffer fools gladly become foolish."
Henry B Eyring
Saturday, June 11, 2011
Friday, June 10, 2011
Find a Way
"He who desires, finds a way. He who doesn't... finds an excuse."
Cape Verde Church History
Cape Verde Church History
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Jane Fonda
I watched Oprah interview Jane Fonda, now 71 years old.
I liked these quotes from Jane:
"To do life right you have to feel like you're growing up 'till the day you die."
"Little by little we break the cycle."
She was talking of the cycle of ignorance and disrespect - abuse.
Jane Fonda is still beautiful outside! I see she is growing her inner beauty too - good for her - and all the rest of us who keep learning and do better as we learn better. Noble and worthwhile work.
I liked these quotes from Jane:
"To do life right you have to feel like you're growing up 'till the day you die."
"Little by little we break the cycle."
She was talking of the cycle of ignorance and disrespect - abuse.
Jane Fonda is still beautiful outside! I see she is growing her inner beauty too - good for her - and all the rest of us who keep learning and do better as we learn better. Noble and worthwhile work.
Thursday, March 31, 2011
75 Ways to Stay Unhappy Forever
by Marc
Dale Carnegie once said,
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It’s what you think about.”
I don’t think anyone could say it any better than that.
I’ve watched so many friends search tirelessly for happiness by changing jobs, moving to new cities, pursuing intimate relationships, and tweaking all sorts of other external factors in their lives.
And guess what? They’re still unhappy.
Why? Because they spend all of their time and money adding positive externals to their lives when their internals are still in the negatives.
So with that in mind, here are 75 ways to stay unhappy forever.
Of course, I would highly recommend you read each point and then move swiftly in the opposite direction.
1 Dwell on things that happened in the past.
2 Obsess yourself with all the things that might happen in the future.
3 Complain about problems. Never take the necessary steps to resolve them.
4 Fear change and resist it.
5 Work hard, do your best. Then condemn yourself for not being perfection.
6 Belittle yourself.
7 Hang out with other people who belittle you.
8 Try to control everything and then worry about the things you can’t control.
9 Lie to yourself and those around you.
10 Keep doing the same thing over and over again.
11 Be lazy and follow the path of least resistance.
12 Hold on to anger. Never forgive anyone.
13 Always be right. Never let anyone else be more right than you.
14 Compare yourself unfavourably to those you see as more successful.
15 Let small issues snowball into big problems.
16 Never learn anything new.
17 Never take responsibility for your own actions.
18 Blame everyone around you.
19 Don’t ask for directions and don’t ask questions.
20 Don’t let anyone to help you.
21 Quit when the going gets tough.
22 Be suspicious. Trust no one.
23 Get four hours of sleep every night and convince yourself that it’s enough.
24 Never throw anything away. Even if you don’t use it, hold onto it.
25 Say “yes” to everyone. Fill all your time with commitments.
26 Try to be everyone’s friend.
27 Multitask, multitask, multitask! Do everything at once.
28 Never spend any time alone.
29 Don’t help others unless you have to. Do only what benefits you directly.
30 Hang out with people who complain about everything.
31 Focus on what you don’t want to happen.
32 Fear the things you don’t fully understand.
33 Always seek validation before you consider yourself good enough.
34 Take everything and everyone in life seriously.
35 Spend your life working in a career field you aren’t passionate about.
36 Focus on the problems.
37 Think about all the things you don’t have.
38 Read or watch lots of depressing news from broadcast media.
39 Set lofty goals for yourself and never do anything to achieve them.
40 Never exercise.
41 Only eat junk food and fried food.
42 Never check-up on your health.
43 Setup your lifestyle so it revolves around money.
44 Spend more than you earn and rack up lots of financial debt.
45 Don’t say what you mean. Don’t mean what you say.
46 Frown.
47 Never tell anyone how you feel or what you’re thinking.
48 Make sure everything you do impresses someone else.
49 Always put your own needs on the back burner.
50 Get involved in other people problems and make them your own.
51 Make others feel bad about themselves.
52 Watch TV for several hours every day.
53 Gamble often. *
54 Stay in the same place. Don’t travel.
55 Don’t play, just work.
56 Let your hobbies go.
57 Let your close relationships go.
58 Never finish what you start.
59 Take everything personally.
60 Do lots of drugs. Drink lots of alcohol.*
61 Never say, “I’m sorry.” Never say, “I love you.”
62 Don’t work hard at anything.
63 Always wait until the last minute.
64 Believe that, no matter what, you are entitled to things.
65 Let others make decisions for you.
66 Remember the insults. Forget the compliments.
67 Let it all bottle up inside.
68 Rely on others for everything.
69 Fail to plan.
70 Don’t dream.
71 Don’t think about the future at all.
72 Always disregard other people’s opinions and suggestions.
73 Make promises you can’t keep.
74 Don’t decide on anything, ever.
75 Just keep going and going and going. And never ever stop.
And now that you know what not to do, let me tell you a secret about happiness.
Nobody is happy all of the time.
It’s perfectly normal to experience considerable fluctuations in your level of happiness from day to day, month to month, and even year to year.
In fact, according to a recent scientific study, overall levels of happiness decline from one’s teens until one’s 40s and then pick up again until they peak in one’s early 70s.
The chances are that your happiest days are yet to come.
Hopefully that gives you something to smile about.
“I count him braver who overcomes his desire than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.” - Aristotle
I complained to my father that I didn't seem to be able to do things the same way other people did.
Dad's advice? "Margo don't be a sheep. People hate sheep. They eat sheep." - Margo Kaufman
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain
* Gamble only on sanely thought out (usually non-money) ventures for rational reasons.
* Consult your Doctor about any drugs you take. Never drinking alcohol is better for you.
Dale Carnegie once said,
“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It’s what you think about.”
I don’t think anyone could say it any better than that.
I’ve watched so many friends search tirelessly for happiness by changing jobs, moving to new cities, pursuing intimate relationships, and tweaking all sorts of other external factors in their lives.
And guess what? They’re still unhappy.
Why? Because they spend all of their time and money adding positive externals to their lives when their internals are still in the negatives.
So with that in mind, here are 75 ways to stay unhappy forever.
Of course, I would highly recommend you read each point and then move swiftly in the opposite direction.
1 Dwell on things that happened in the past.
2 Obsess yourself with all the things that might happen in the future.
3 Complain about problems. Never take the necessary steps to resolve them.
4 Fear change and resist it.
5 Work hard, do your best. Then condemn yourself for not being perfection.
6 Belittle yourself.
7 Hang out with other people who belittle you.
8 Try to control everything and then worry about the things you can’t control.
9 Lie to yourself and those around you.
10 Keep doing the same thing over and over again.
11 Be lazy and follow the path of least resistance.
12 Hold on to anger. Never forgive anyone.
13 Always be right. Never let anyone else be more right than you.
14 Compare yourself unfavourably to those you see as more successful.
15 Let small issues snowball into big problems.
16 Never learn anything new.
17 Never take responsibility for your own actions.
18 Blame everyone around you.
19 Don’t ask for directions and don’t ask questions.
20 Don’t let anyone to help you.
21 Quit when the going gets tough.
22 Be suspicious. Trust no one.
23 Get four hours of sleep every night and convince yourself that it’s enough.
24 Never throw anything away. Even if you don’t use it, hold onto it.
25 Say “yes” to everyone. Fill all your time with commitments.
26 Try to be everyone’s friend.
27 Multitask, multitask, multitask! Do everything at once.
28 Never spend any time alone.
29 Don’t help others unless you have to. Do only what benefits you directly.
30 Hang out with people who complain about everything.
31 Focus on what you don’t want to happen.
32 Fear the things you don’t fully understand.
33 Always seek validation before you consider yourself good enough.
34 Take everything and everyone in life seriously.
35 Spend your life working in a career field you aren’t passionate about.
36 Focus on the problems.
37 Think about all the things you don’t have.
38 Read or watch lots of depressing news from broadcast media.
39 Set lofty goals for yourself and never do anything to achieve them.
40 Never exercise.
41 Only eat junk food and fried food.
42 Never check-up on your health.
43 Setup your lifestyle so it revolves around money.
44 Spend more than you earn and rack up lots of financial debt.
45 Don’t say what you mean. Don’t mean what you say.
46 Frown.
47 Never tell anyone how you feel or what you’re thinking.
48 Make sure everything you do impresses someone else.
49 Always put your own needs on the back burner.
50 Get involved in other people problems and make them your own.
51 Make others feel bad about themselves.
52 Watch TV for several hours every day.
53 Gamble often. *
54 Stay in the same place. Don’t travel.
55 Don’t play, just work.
56 Let your hobbies go.
57 Let your close relationships go.
58 Never finish what you start.
59 Take everything personally.
60 Do lots of drugs. Drink lots of alcohol.*
61 Never say, “I’m sorry.” Never say, “I love you.”
62 Don’t work hard at anything.
63 Always wait until the last minute.
64 Believe that, no matter what, you are entitled to things.
65 Let others make decisions for you.
66 Remember the insults. Forget the compliments.
67 Let it all bottle up inside.
68 Rely on others for everything.
69 Fail to plan.
70 Don’t dream.
71 Don’t think about the future at all.
72 Always disregard other people’s opinions and suggestions.
73 Make promises you can’t keep.
74 Don’t decide on anything, ever.
75 Just keep going and going and going. And never ever stop.
And now that you know what not to do, let me tell you a secret about happiness.
Nobody is happy all of the time.
It’s perfectly normal to experience considerable fluctuations in your level of happiness from day to day, month to month, and even year to year.
In fact, according to a recent scientific study, overall levels of happiness decline from one’s teens until one’s 40s and then pick up again until they peak in one’s early 70s.
The chances are that your happiest days are yet to come.
Hopefully that gives you something to smile about.
“I count him braver who overcomes his desire than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.” - Aristotle
I complained to my father that I didn't seem to be able to do things the same way other people did.
Dad's advice? "Margo don't be a sheep. People hate sheep. They eat sheep." - Margo Kaufman
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” - Mark Twain
* Gamble only on sanely thought out (usually non-money) ventures for rational reasons.
* Consult your Doctor about any drugs you take. Never drinking alcohol is better for you.
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
Anger... Change
Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the Mind... You can’t change the past, but You can ruin the present by worrying over the future...
Thursday, March 17, 2011
Failure
"Failure is so important... Rock bottom wasn't fun at all. But it was liberating."
JK Rowling
JK Rowling
Tuesday, March 15, 2011
The "Happy" Test
* Do you find it hard to set goals for yourself?
* Does the future seem bleak?
* Do you prefer being alone?
* Do you have few hobbies?
* Do you dwell on the past?
* Do you rely on alcohol, caffeine and sugary snacks for a "lift"?
* Are you a pessimist?
* Would you like to change your looks or personality?
* Do you dislike your job?
* Are you in a bad relationship?
Count up your "yes" answers.
Score: 0
You are fortunate - you love life.
Score 1 - 3
Your life looks pretty good. You still need to make a little extra effort.
Score 4 - 7
Good start. You also need to do more to fulfil your happiness potential.
Score 8 - 10
You are generally unhappy. Reassess your life and lifestyle. Consider visiting with a counsellor. Gradually reverse your negative thinking processes.
Some things you might like to work with every day:
Accept yourself as you are.
Celebrate the good things about yourself.
Share some good news every day.
Look for good things in others around you.
Convert negative thoughts - reword them into positive sentiments.
Surround yourself with the colours: orange, turquoise, green, violet - these colours enhance your mood when you need an attitude -lift.
Exercise aerobically for at least 30 minutes every other day - trigger the release of your body's feel-good chemicals and endorphins.
Set yourself attainable goals. Reach them. Keep your aims small to begin with.
Dance more. Move your body more - to music!
Avoid eating sugary snacks - they give you an instant boost and then your body plummets lower than you were to begin with.
Eat plenty of fruits, vegetables and whole foods.
Avoid alcohol and caffeine.
Sleep enough most nights.
Emotionally-skillful people thrive and have better relationships.
Contented people have a more fulfilling life.
Happy people enjoy their work more.
Cheerful people find more joy in their every-day life.
Become more optimistic and positive.
Apply more of these success-disciplines in your life.
Improve your general outlook on life - your life.
"Out of small persistent daily efforts proceeds great annual progress..."
Western Times - April 1999
* Does the future seem bleak?
* Do you prefer being alone?
* Do you have few hobbies?
* Do you dwell on the past?
* Do you rely on alcohol, caffeine and sugary snacks for a "lift"?
* Are you a pessimist?
* Would you like to change your looks or personality?
* Do you dislike your job?
* Are you in a bad relationship?
Count up your "yes" answers.
Score: 0
You are fortunate - you love life.
Score 1 - 3
Your life looks pretty good. You still need to make a little extra effort.
Score 4 - 7
Good start. You also need to do more to fulfil your happiness potential.
Score 8 - 10
You are generally unhappy. Reassess your life and lifestyle. Consider visiting with a counsellor. Gradually reverse your negative thinking processes.
Some things you might like to work with every day:
Accept yourself as you are.
Celebrate the good things about yourself.
Share some good news every day.
Look for good things in others around you.
Convert negative thoughts - reword them into positive sentiments.
Surround yourself with the colours: orange, turquoise, green, violet - these colours enhance your mood when you need an attitude -lift.
Exercise aerobically for at least 30 minutes every other day - trigger the release of your body's feel-good chemicals and endorphins.
Set yourself attainable goals. Reach them. Keep your aims small to begin with.
Dance more. Move your body more - to music!
Avoid eating sugary snacks - they give you an instant boost and then your body plummets lower than you were to begin with.
Eat plenty of fruits, vegetables and whole foods.
Avoid alcohol and caffeine.
Sleep enough most nights.
Emotionally-skillful people thrive and have better relationships.
Contented people have a more fulfilling life.
Happy people enjoy their work more.
Cheerful people find more joy in their every-day life.
Become more optimistic and positive.
Apply more of these success-disciplines in your life.
Improve your general outlook on life - your life.
"Out of small persistent daily efforts proceeds great annual progress..."
Western Times - April 1999
Monday, February 21, 2011
Betrayal
"Even though it's a kick in the gut, it doesn't make me cry or stay in bed anymore. What I learnt from that first betrayal is that when you have nothing to be ashamed of, when you know who you are and what you stand for, you stand in wisdom, insight, strength and protection. You stand in peace."
Oprah Winfrey
Oprah Winfrey
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Put Right the Wrong
"Whosoever sees a wrong and is able to put it right with his hand, let him do so; if he can't, then with his tongue; if he can't, then in his heart - and that is the bare minimum of his faith."
Mohammed (I believe today is his birthday...)
Mohammed (I believe today is his birthday...)
Monday, February 7, 2011
Enjoy the Little Things...
"Enjoy the little things of today and you will look back and realize they were the big things."
Seen at Anna Paula Gift Shop
Seen at Anna Paula Gift Shop
Saturday, February 5, 2011
An Adventure
"An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered.
An inconvenience is is only an adventure wrongly considered."
GK Chesterton
An inconvenience is is only an adventure wrongly considered."
GK Chesterton
Friday, February 4, 2011
Alcoholics, Addicts, Anorexics and Bulimics
"Alcoholicas and addicts tend to live long and miserable lives making those around them miserable. Anorexics and bulimics die young, they die hard."
Joanie - Guest on Dr Phil show
Joanie - Guest on Dr Phil show
Monday, January 31, 2011
Control
"When people choose not to control themselves, they try to control others."
My recorded reference is "P Dev 75 p9 Self Mastery" - and I have no idea what my shorthand means!
I know the truth of of the quote though.
When people try to control me - I remember this principle and ask myself "Are they maybe neglecting to control themselves in trying to control me? I am free to choose how I want to live my life. I claim my right to make my own choices. Let me make my own decision now with as much graciousness and respect for them as I can feel and manifest."
When I feel myself wanting to control others I often pause and ponder "Am I forgetting my responsibility of governing myself? Is that why I feel the need to control this other beautiful person who has the right and responsibility to make their own choices?" Most times I catch myself and let the other person be themselves and learn as they need to or want to.
My recorded reference is "P Dev 75 p9 Self Mastery" - and I have no idea what my shorthand means!
I know the truth of of the quote though.
When people try to control me - I remember this principle and ask myself "Are they maybe neglecting to control themselves in trying to control me? I am free to choose how I want to live my life. I claim my right to make my own choices. Let me make my own decision now with as much graciousness and respect for them as I can feel and manifest."
When I feel myself wanting to control others I often pause and ponder "Am I forgetting my responsibility of governing myself? Is that why I feel the need to control this other beautiful person who has the right and responsibility to make their own choices?" Most times I catch myself and let the other person be themselves and learn as they need to or want to.
Sunday, January 16, 2011
Friday, January 14, 2011
Enjoy Every Day
Enjoy every day of your life while you are changing and becoming better. Learn to be content with your circumstances - whatever they are."
Joyce Meyer
Joyce Meyer
Thursday, January 13, 2011
Master...
"Whoever is a master was once a disaster at it.
If you don't start where you are, you will stay where you are.
Casualness leads to a casualty."
Dr John Tibane
author of "Advance Your Life"
If you don't start where you are, you will stay where you are.
Casualness leads to a casualty."
Dr John Tibane
author of "Advance Your Life"
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
Positive Thoughts
I came to check something on my computer and saw my brother Tim was on Skype. I checked in with him. He is in Cape Town. He sent me this gorgeous picture taken on Christmas Day - sunrise in the Karoo.
My sister Jane sent me these - good thoughts to have in this in-between week...
These sorts of uplifting sentiments fuel my inner-fire and help blow my hair back as I press forward with steadfastness!
ENJOY...
If you want one year of prosperity, grow grain.
If you want ten years of prosperity, grow trees.
If you want 100 years of prosperity, grow people.
(Chinese Proverb)
When you’re through learning, you’re through.
(Vernon Law)
Minds are like parachutes, they only function when open.
(Thomas Dewar)
“I hear and I forget, I see and I remember, I do and I understand.”
(Confucius 551-479 bc)
Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.
(Stephen R Covey)
The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important.
(Michael Neil)
Management means helping people to get the most out of themselves, not organising things.
(Lauren Apley)
There are no short cuts to anywhere worth going.
(Helen Keller)
If we keep doing what we’re doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.
(Stephen R Covey)
The best time to fix the roof is when the sun is shining.
(John F Kennedy)
Happiness is not a goal, it is a by product.
(Eleanor Roosevelt)
Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell ‘em “Certainly I can!” Then get busy and find out how to do it.
(Theodore Roosevelt)
Some men see things as they are and ask “why”? I dare to dream of things that never were and ask “Why not”?
(George Bernard Shaw)
The learning is in the wobbles.
(Dave Meier)
If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.
(Henry Ford)
It’s not what happens to you that makes the difference – it’s what you do with what happens to you.
(Unknown Author)
Change the way people think and things will never be the same.
(Steve Biko)
I believe in businesses where you engage in creative thinking, and where you form some of your deepest relationships. If it isn’t about the production of the human spirit, we are in big trouble.
(Anita Roddick)
Today, if you are not confused, you are just not thinking clearly.
(unknown)
Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never, never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense.
(Winston Churchill)
Morale is when your hands and feet keep on working when your head says it can’t be done.
(Benjamin Morrell)
There is no such thing as bad weather, only the wrong clothes.
(Billy Connolly)
A mistake is only a mistake if you don’t learn from it.
(Unknown)
Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.
(Will Rogers, 1879-1935 cowboy, actor, philanthropist)
One measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it’s the same problem you had last year.
(John Foster Dulles)
It is in the moment of decision that your destiny is shaped.
(Anthony Robbins)
The future of work will consist of learning a living.
(Marshall McLuhan)
The best way to have a good idea is to have lots of ideas.
(Linus Pauling)
I want to work for a company that contributes to, and is part of, the community. I want something not just to invest in, I want something to believe in.
(Anita Roddick)
The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don’t play together, the club won’t be worth a dime.
(Babe Ruth)
If I have seen a little further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.
(Sir Isaac Newton)
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
(Albert Einstein)
Thanks Tim and Jane.
A happier, more purposeful, day to all of us.
These sorts of uplifting sentiments fuel my inner-fire and help blow my hair back as I press forward with steadfastness!
ENJOY...
If you want one year of prosperity, grow grain.
If you want ten years of prosperity, grow trees.
If you want 100 years of prosperity, grow people.
(Chinese Proverb)
When you’re through learning, you’re through.
(Vernon Law)
Minds are like parachutes, they only function when open.
(Thomas Dewar)
“I hear and I forget, I see and I remember, I do and I understand.”
(Confucius 551-479 bc)
Motivation is a fire from within. If someone else tries to light that fire under you, chances are it will burn very briefly.
(Stephen R Covey)
The most important choice you make is what you choose to make important.
(Michael Neil)
Management means helping people to get the most out of themselves, not organising things.
(Lauren Apley)
There are no short cuts to anywhere worth going.
(Helen Keller)
If we keep doing what we’re doing, we’re going to keep getting what we’re getting.
(Stephen R Covey)
The best time to fix the roof is when the sun is shining.
(John F Kennedy)
Happiness is not a goal, it is a by product.
(Eleanor Roosevelt)
Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell ‘em “Certainly I can!” Then get busy and find out how to do it.
(Theodore Roosevelt)
Some men see things as they are and ask “why”? I dare to dream of things that never were and ask “Why not”?
(George Bernard Shaw)
The learning is in the wobbles.
(Dave Meier)
If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.
(Henry Ford)
It’s not what happens to you that makes the difference – it’s what you do with what happens to you.
(Unknown Author)
Change the way people think and things will never be the same.
(Steve Biko)
I believe in businesses where you engage in creative thinking, and where you form some of your deepest relationships. If it isn’t about the production of the human spirit, we are in big trouble.
(Anita Roddick)
Today, if you are not confused, you are just not thinking clearly.
(unknown)
Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never, never give in except to convictions of honour and good sense.
(Winston Churchill)
Morale is when your hands and feet keep on working when your head says it can’t be done.
(Benjamin Morrell)
There is no such thing as bad weather, only the wrong clothes.
(Billy Connolly)
A mistake is only a mistake if you don’t learn from it.
(Unknown)
Don’t let yesterday take up too much of today.
(Will Rogers, 1879-1935 cowboy, actor, philanthropist)
One measure of success is not whether you have a tough problem to deal with, but whether it’s the same problem you had last year.
(John Foster Dulles)
It is in the moment of decision that your destiny is shaped.
(Anthony Robbins)
The future of work will consist of learning a living.
(Marshall McLuhan)
The best way to have a good idea is to have lots of ideas.
(Linus Pauling)
I want to work for a company that contributes to, and is part of, the community. I want something not just to invest in, I want something to believe in.
(Anita Roddick)
The way a team plays as a whole determines its success. You may have the greatest bunch of individual stars in the world, but if they don’t play together, the club won’t be worth a dime.
(Babe Ruth)
If I have seen a little further it is by standing on the shoulders of giants.
(Sir Isaac Newton)
Imagination is more important than knowledge.
(Albert Einstein)
Thanks Tim and Jane.
A happier, more purposeful, day to all of us.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Friday, December 17, 2010
Face the Fear
I faced the thing I feared the most
And now it all seems clear
I've found the strength inside of me
And all I've lost is fear.
And now it all seems clear
I've found the strength inside of me
And all I've lost is fear.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
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